Why Crushes > Relationships

When you’re crushing on somebody whether having burning thoughts from afar or interacting by building and experiencing the sparks that turn into intense flames, life is a massive paradise of euphoria. Don’t get me wrong, I understand it could hurt to admire somebody at a distance. Also, it must be nice to be a part of a monogamous relationship. Except – that is when life has the potential to become a pit of misery and repentance.

Exhibit A: Pit of Misery

Relationships of my generation are messy. We have all kinds of technology at the tips of our fingers bringing enhancements and ease of those sneaky, disingenuous temptations. It’s too easy to mess up. It’s too easy to have something new, something better.  They don’t appreciate your presence. They don’t notice your small gestures that used to make their heart skip a beat. Arguments become whirlwinds of expressive and vindictive rants on social media. The line between what is right and wrong have been blurred by a “Like.” Instead of communicating, we seek validation for our feelings. Maybe somebody else felt this way. *Search “HeartBreak.”* Let me retweet this to get their attention. While I’m at it, I need to scroll through that “Following” tab on Instagram to see if they are liking pictures of that person who looks nothing like me, again. Ugh. This has gone too far. Who are we anymore?

Exhibit B: Paradise of Euphoria

When you’re crushing on somebody, you don’t really have important expectations. You may have hopes – beautiful hopes. You may not have hopes at all. I think a lot of people just take the excitement of a crush one day at a time. Sometimes it’s even better if you don’t read so much into things. This is exciting to say the least. Dating. Is. SO. Fun!! You look forward to that awkward silence and their rambles about what they want out of life and how they’re going to accomplish it. The thrill of learning something new about this person every day is the one thing that makes getting out of bed in the morning just a little bit easier. Or maybe the person is just somebody you cross paths with at 7:32 when you’re grabbing that cup of coffee or at 5:07 when you’re headed to your car in the parking lot. Perhaps admiring somebody from afar isn’t so bad after all. Oh! Did they just wink at me? *blushes* That made my entire day.

Let’s be honest. The easiest way to deal with that pit of misery is to find yourself a paradise of euphoria. 

 

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